Monday Highlight: Feeling Festive, Leaving My Phone Alone and Trying Out P50 Biologique Recherche

Monday highlight is back! I’ve had the best weekend and I am having a terrible Monday. But guess what, I kind of know why which is super positive I think.

I was feeling very festive this weekend and decided to decorate my flat which is something I’ve been doing for a few years now. It puts me in a great mood, it means coming back home is even more lovely, twinkle lights and all that, and because I’ve come to the realization that I don’t like the actual Christmas day that much, I’ve decided I’ll try and enjoy the festive season instead. While I was doing that, decorating my fake super small Christmas tree, creating a weird art display (see below) and listening to a food podcast (not so good sorry but I was so happy decorating I did not even care), I did not touch my phone, and actually used my hands to do something else than typing. Lovely!

Today, I woke up, scrolled through Instagram, my emails, Linkedin, Twitter and felt like the rain pouring outside my window was actually pouring inside my head. FUN! I’m pretty sure that, if I had started my day differently, I would have been in a much better mood.

You probably don’t remember this, or maybe you do and in that case I’d love to know how you felt. A few weeks ago, Instagram stopped working for a few minutes. I started thinking “Oh imagine if it stopped working forever? Like it would just disappear?” I felt a huge sense of relief.

I’m sure you all freaked out when you discovered the new Iphone feature that tells you how long you spend on apps, and also, how often you unlock your phone. I don’t want to share the number with you because I’m ashamed to be completely honest. I’m pretty sure I’m not the only one. I know it’s not the first time I mention this subject here but it’s because it keeps coming back on my mind. This morning’s bad mood was so clearly linked with how quickly after waking up I checked my phone yet I still do it every week.

The only thing to do really is to leave your phone alone I guess. Which I did on Sunday. Not the entire day, but most of it. I felt like something was missing, like I HAD to share something as I had not posted anything on Instagram for days. The irony of course is, how do I make people find my blog without using Social Media. I do not have the answer. Anyway, I put my phone away and tried to live my life. It was an uneasy feeling let me which sounds really silly if you re-read the previous sentence.

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Then I focused on this lovely Christmassy thing above and just forgot about it. Until I did not… (My partner built the main wood thing and the jars for me years ago. I usually have flowers in, but around this time of year I add Christmas bobbles.) Regarding the Merry Christmas banner, It came without the “I”, can you believe it? I make do, and created an I out of a paper straw. How CREATIVE.

Nothing groundbreaking on this Monday, but leaving your phone alone, leave it charging somewhere or in an other room, and forget about it actually works. I’ve learned my lesson a few times, but writing it down might make me, or you, realize that it needs to change. Do you do that sometimes? How’s your relationship with your phone?

Oh also, something beauty related, I have tried the oh so famous P50 by Biologique Recherche again last night. Last time I tried it, I believe I used too much and my skin was probably sensitized already and I got an immediate reaction the next morning, I was spotty and my skin was super fragile. But I paid for it you know, and it’s meant to be so good! Gave it another go last night, nothing to report as of yet, will keep you posted! I am so curious to know what it could do for my skin. Isn’t it funny how sometimes, your skin’s behaving nicely, glowing, and you just want to try something new, just to see and it messes up with everything? Glad to be your guinea pig though!

How was your weekend anyway?

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Busy Philipps, Marc Maron, Candidness and Chocolate Cake

So, I’ve just made a cake. The Trish Deseine’s signature chocolate cake if you want to know. I add salt so it balances the deep chocolate flavor, it’s gorgeous. Anyway, so as I’m baking I’m listening to a podcast because apparently I can’t really enjoy silence. Can you? Isn’t it interesting how, I guess even more nowadays, our mental space gets saturated yet we sometimes choose to make it even more saturated with images, sounds, etc?

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Is digression a disease? If it is, I definitely HAVE IT.

ANYWAY. I really appreciate Marc Maron’s podcast, WTF. I’ve listened to many episodes, loved them and talked about it here. In October he interviewed Busy Philipps who I’ve always liked as an actress but don’t know much about. Amongst many things they talked about anxiety and anger in such a candid, relatable way. It’s refreshing to see two people just be so honest with each other, and transparent about their fears, vision on life, ways of copping with how scary life can be. It’s not something I hear that often, in such an honest manner.

It’s really a great conversation to listen to so I thought I had to share this with you!

Also, here’s a quote from the podcast, written by Marc Maron, “The monster I’ve created to protect the kid inside me is hard to manage“.

Food for thoughts right?

“Following” These People Won’t Kill Your Vibe : The Podcast Edition.

So, you know by now that I’ve had a Social Media clear out and a little bit of a rant about self-help content. Today I would like to share with you the content I consume that I have found to be truly inspiring and mood lifting! The weekend is getting closer and I know that’s usually when I get the time to catch up on Podcasts, articles etc. But it’s also when I’m often the most vulnerable and therefore tend to compare myself to others. “I did not buy flowers this weekend, why is everyone else getting flowers and hanging around at lovely markets? I did not go out this Sunday, am I a failure? Why is everyone traveling so much, should I travel more? I really fancy junk food tonight, but should I have cooked something  yummy last week so that I only have to re-heat it now and feel great about myself?  

Sounds familiar?

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Right. Like I said in the title, these people won’t kill your vibe. This week I’m focusing on Podcasts because let’s be honest, I listen to at least one podcast a day, so it’s fair to say I’ve tried and tested a lot of them.

First off, Jules and Sarah The Podcast is probably one of the best piece of content I’ve come across to in the past few years really. It’s funny, heart-warming, inspiring, mood-lifting. Basically the idea is “ Two northerners Sarah and Jules now reside in hectic busy London. Together they waffle about cheese, festive shreds, news from the north and other such wondrous “life changing” information.

Jules is a global celebrity spray tan artist and now has his own Colour Correcting Self Tan brand, Isle of Paradise, and Sarah used to do radio, is a wedding celebrant and has just launched her new project based around the idea of celebrating yourself. They’re both wonderful and I feel like they’re my friends. Sarah’s Instagram stories are my favorite by far, and Jules’s positive thoughts are the best. Massive BABES, biggest crush of the year. It’s on every Friday, go listen!!

Quite a recent interesting discovery is Couples Therapy by Candice and Casey Neistat. It’s exactly what the title suggests. Casey Neistat is film maker extremely popular on Youtube and Candice Pool Neistat is the founder of the jewelry brand Billy and also runs Finn jewelry. They discuss the ups and downs of their marriage, friendship, parenting, and lives in the YouTube spotlight. It’s quite raw and intimate : sometimes makes me uncomfortable, often makes me laugh. It basically makes me reconsider and rethink the notion of couple and relationships which is worth it in my opinion.

Next up is My Dad Wrote a Porno. I’ve already talked about it a few months ago, and I stayed subscribed to it after my clear-out simply because it still makes me laugh out loud on the street which still isn’t my best look but I could not care less. The pitch is “Imagine if your Dad wrote a dirty book. Most people would try to ignore it and pretend it had never happened – but not Jamie Morton. Instead, he’s decided to read it to the world in this brand new comedy podcast. With the help of his friends, James Cooper and Alice Levine, Jamie will be reading a chapter a week and discovering more about his father than he ever bargained for.” Just give it a go, you will not regret it!

My last recommandation is The High Low by Pandora Sykes and Dolly Alderton. It’s about worldwide news and pop-culture so I find I have to be in the right mindset for it. It’s super smart, I love how Pandora and Dolly both bring their own twist and point of view on cultural news. They often tell the audience about the books they’ve been reading which always makes me want to read more. They’re simply amazing storytellers. It’s also funny sometimes and always enlightening. Great for Saturday mornings!

Next week will be “Following” These People Won’t Kill Your Vibe : The Instagram Edition.

In the meantime, I hope you’ll have a good, relaxing, non-triggering weekend! And if you need a bit of cheering up, I promise these podcasts will help.

The Day “Self-Help Content” Stopped Helping Me

The other day I told my partner, “I’ve heard something on this podcast that really made me think. It goes ” The only difference between you and the people who are successful, is that they’re doing it, you’re not“”. Well, something along those lines anyway. He looked at me and said, “Yeah (sigh), I don’t really connect to that, I mean, this kind of stuff just goes without saying. What’s the point of that kind of affirmation anyway?

I thought he had a point, but to be honest I also thought, because he doesn’t have Instagram or listen to podcasts, “Well, he doesn’t really get it, he’s not familiar with that kind of content. He might see it from a, not hostile per say but “meh” point of view.

A few days later, I heard the exact same sentence on another podcast, and for some reason, it made me feel really angry. I don’t know if I was angry at myself, or the type of content I ingest, or both, but I decided it was all a bit too much. What was? All the “self-help” content I listened to, watched, read about.

*When I talk about self-help here, I know the term probably is too vast, and a business podcast for instance might not be considered like self-help content, but basically to me it means, any content related to how to improve your life, be successful, be better at communicating, be confident etc. Hope it’s clear!

It started with a few success stories about people making it. It would usually go like this “I started from nothing, worked my ass off before and after going to my everyday job, and after a lot of hard work, not seeing my friends, or family because of the amount of work I was dedicated to throw myself into, it finally…worked. See what I did there?

Then I started to see people on Instagram telling their audience, “I know I posted this amazing photo of me on holidays looking glowy and all but just know that right now, I look and/or feel like shit.

I could not stop consuming stories about entrepreneurs, content creators, self-help book writers, people who inspired me. And, don’t get me wrong, some of them still do BUT, we’ll come onto that later.

Then followed, videos, TED talks, articles, Linkedin posts. They were all about the same idea, turned into a statement: you are responsible for your own happiness. Which, let’s be REAL, and nuanced, is so simplistic and just not true. It simply doesn’t take into account, culture, social background, education, life shit, anything. It’s an affirmation making you responsible for your own happiness but it sort of means that, if you’re not happy, well, guess what? That’s on you as well.

Then I started to see people on Instagram telling their audience, “I know I posted this amazing photo of me on holidays looking glowy and all but just know that right now, I look and/or feel like shit.” And everytime I saw that kind of post I thought, “Ok, then Why would you post that amazing looking picture of you in the first place? And then remind us that, hey, it’s not real life folks, don’t forget!” Some say, “I want my account to be positive, I want to spread joy”, etc. Which is a nice thought. Yet, they must be aware that this type of content does not have that much of a positive impact on people if they keep having to apologize for it, or deconstruct the images they put on Social Media for the sake of being honest and more transparent, right?

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It all started to make me feel dizzy, guilty and worst of all, small. I remember walking around in my flat, cleaning or folding my clothes away, listening to this podcast and hearing for the second time in a few days : “The only difference between you and the people who are successful, is that they’re doing it, you’re not“.

I stopped doing what I was doing, and said out loud, “Stop. This had to stop“.

I don’t want to meditate, or maybe I do, but ultimately, do I want to hear about other people LOVING it all the time?

Consuming all this so called “self-help” content was not helping me at all. Years ago I’d be excited about it, it felt really new and full of hope, and I guess in a way, it was really new and full of hope, and probably necessary as well. However that day, I thought, ” Too much “self-help” content is eventually going to fuck me up.

I don’t even think I want to be an entrepreneur. I don’t like to fake it until I make it. I don’t think it’s easier to give up than to pursue your dreams, it’s way more complicated. I don’t like making lists, I always loose them or if I don’t, I forget to tick the boxes. I don’t even like baths and candles, it’s so boring it does not help me to reset at all. I don’t want to meditate, or maybe I do, but ultimately, do I want to hear about other people LOVING it all the time?

I miss raw content, unedited honesty. I miss real life stories. You might argue that culture, online content should or could, amongst other things, make us dream. And I agree. The thing is what I was consuming was not making me dream anymore. Because you know what makes me dream? Real life. With its flaws, errors, misundersantings, wobbles, failures, successes, joys, hopes. All of it. I’m sick of the edited version. I don’t love the word authenticity but I’m going to be crazy and say that, I want more of it.

I want the good, the bad and the ugly.

This post is a bit rambly. You might disagree or think it’s just another rant against society, consumerism, social media, and it might as well be. Oh also, I’m well aware I might be contributing to that, yet aren’t we all? I’m not sitting here judging everyone, I’m just being honest.  Anyway, I’m now choosing very carefully what I watch, read, listen to “self-help” wise, and I’ll share it with you soon. I touched on that a few months ago, and I’ve already done a bit of clear out this summer. But it’s not over.

What do you think about all this? Do you feel the same or not at all?

This space is called Le Beauty Journal and I like to think beautiful things in life can be rough, raw and real. Same goes for happiness and success. Failures and disappointments. We’re just doing our best. Don’t you think we might need less “self-help” if we could just help each other?

It’s the little things you know.

Little Things #1

I’ve been a bit busy lately, but the good kind of busy. Still, I haven’t been super present on the blogging front, so I’m hopefully making it up to you with today’s blog post. I’m coming back with an article about those little things that make life better, you know? It could be something you read, your new mug purchase (hint hint) or buying yourself some flowers. Little things #1 will be a series because there’s never too much things to be inspired by I think and here’s the first episode. Oh and I’d love it if you shared yours in the comments actually!

1. Glossier Cloud Paints

A friend of mine recently hooked me up on some Glossier goodies which I am SO thankful for! I got boy brow in brown, stretch concealer in light, the Glossier You solid perfume (which I’ll tell you about soon) and two Cloud Paints, one in Puff which I’m almost finished of so I needed (yes I am using that verb, because I truly need this stuff) a new one and I also got the shade Haze, a dark flamboyant pink which I LOVE. The formula is still excellent, and the pigmentation is unreal, you only need the tiniest amount. I also really love the finish on lips with lip balm underneath, glossy and deeply pink.

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3. Old Hoop Earrings

I got these like 10 years ago at a flea market, but I’m falling in love with them again. They’re simple hoop earrings, they’re not gold plated or anything though they seem to last pretty well over years. I love pairing them with a pair of white jeans, sneakers and a boxy t-shirt. Or with a dress if I’m feeling extra fancy. Great and simple style addition if you ask me!

2. Marc Maron WTF Podcast

I’ve written an entire post about my favorite podcasts, but I have to reiterate on this one because it’s so brilliant. Today for instance, I listened to the episode with Jason Alexander (from Seinfeld amongst other things) and it was great. Marc Maron is a great interviewer and though I don’t listen to all the episodes because I don’t know all of his guests, I often just click randomly on the list of shows and am never disappointed. I find that this podcast simply is the best destination for smart and inspiring conversations!

 

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4. Vichy Mineral 89 serum

Now, this serum is so good to my skin it’s the best discovery I’ve made in months. Vichy Mineral 89 is packed with water, 89% of mineral water actually which to be honest made me a tad sceptical at first. Paying 20 euros for water? No no. Still, I wanted to give it a try because I was looking for a good hydrating serum with an affordable price, suitable for my extremely sensitive skin. This one only has 11 ingredients, and a really watery texture. Yet it works on my skin and it might be because it also has hyaluronic acid and glycerin. My skin feels more hydrated and soft (also it never got irritated because the serum is fragrance-free which is a huge plus for me), and I have to say, I feel like it’s giving me glow! I’ve been using it for 5 weeks now every single day, and I highly recommend it!

5. The Office Mug

I mean, do I even have to explain why? I LOVE The Office (US version, need to watch the original UK series) and I miss it from time to time, I need to watch it again actually. In the meantime, I got this mug, and it just makes me so bloody happy it’s insane.

 

Podcasts I’m loving right now

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My sunday basically. Face masks, coffee and podcasts.

So everyone and their mother is into podcasts. No news here. And I am too !

I listen to podcasts a few times a week. When I have something boring to do, when I cook, when I struggle to get in the mood or to be creative and actually get shit done, on the train, on the tube, etc. Actually, you’ll see below in which mood these podcasts put me in, it might be useful for you to choose a few to listen to !

Without further a do, here’s a list of the ones I’ve been loving recently and why you might enjoy them as well !

My Dad Wrote A Porno 

What they say about it

“Imagine if your Dad wrote a dirty book. Most people would try to ignore it and pretend it had never happened – but not Jamie Morton. Instead, he’s decided to read it to the world in this brand new comedy podcast. With the help of his friends, James Cooper and Alice Levine, Jamie will be reading a chapter a week and discovering more about his father than he ever bargained for.”

Why I like it

It’s simply hilarious. At first, I was a little bit obsessed by the veracity of the story. Did Jamie’s dad really write a porno ? I don’t care anymore because the story itself is so good in the craziest way, and Alice and James comments so funny that I’m actually hooked ! I sometimes laugh out loud on the street when I’m listening to it which is not my best look  but it’s definitely worth it. This is pure joy. If you’re feeling blue, listen to My Dad Wrote A Porno, you’ll forget why you were in a sad mood in the first place.

Girlboss Radio

What they say about it

“On each episode of the Girlboss Radio, Sophia interviews boundary-pushing women who’ve made their mark—eschewing polite conversation and extracting solid advice from the lessons they’ve learned along the way. Expect hilarious co-hosts and vulnerable, honest conversations you won’t hear anywhere else. Conversations that humanize the known, champion the unknown, and laugh a little at the absurdity of life.”

Why I like it 

What I enjoy about this podcast is that it makes me discover business women who have their shit together but don’t make me feel bad about it. Sophia’s questions are genuine and deep, and the guests’s answers are equally gripping. It’s also interesting business wise, I would not consider myself a very business-orientated person, but I do learn a lot when listening to it. Inspirational and motivating !

At Home With

What they say about it

“Your home says so much about you – where you’ve travelled, who you’ve met, and the kind of person you are. We’ve asked people we admire to open their front doors and talk about their lives, by taking a tour of their homes to discover who they really are. We’ve riffled through their wardrobes, nosed through their fridges and even scrolled through their Sky+ recordings, to shed some light on their fascinating lives. Join us At Home With…”

Why I like it 

First of all, I’ve been reading Anna and Lily‘s blogs and watching their Youtube videos for years. So when I heard they were making a podcast, I was excited to hear more about the idea behind it. I like how enthusiasts they are when going into their guests’s houses, and how their curiosity makes for great conversations. It’s like following them around into great women’s bathroom or living room. I’m extremely curious and this really sealed my thirst. Beauty, lifestyle, home decor, business, inspiration… I just wish it could be longer because it’s that good !

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This, of course, is probably my favorite mug in the world.

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What they say about it

“Alec Baldwin takes listeners into the lives of artists, policy makers and performers. Alec sidesteps the predictable by going inside the dressing rooms, apartments, and offices of people we want to understand better: Ira Glass, Lena Dunham, David Brooks, Roz Chast, Chris Rock and others.”

Why I like it 

Well, Alec Baldwin’s voice in itself is delightful. But of course, the conversations are equally fascinating. I pick the guests I’m interested to know more about, and I’m never disappointed because of how well Alec (yes, I just called him Alec) knows the industry and because of the brilliant guests he’s had on the show… My favorites are Sarah Jessica Parker (absolutely fascinating, not what you might expect), Barbara Streisand, Judd Apatow, Patti Lupone, David Simon & Jerry Seinfeld.

Monocyle with Leandra Medine

What they say about it 

“A ten minute digest from author, humorist and creator of Man Repeller, Leandra Medine. New shows published weekly.”

Why I like it 

I love Leandra Medine. She’s witty, alert and hilarious. This 10 minutes podcast makes me feel like I spent these minutes being her friend and thinking about our lives: where they’re going, who we are, what we want to be. Also, I really appreciate her use of english language which might sound weird, but she’s a fabulous writer so it makes sense : she’s fabulous to listen to.

The Emma Guns Show

What they say about it

“Each week beauty journalist and presenter Emma Gunavardhana chats to a beauty industry insider; from skincare experts, make-up artists, fellow beauty editors, bloggers, beauty junkies – you name it. So if you love beauty you’d better tune in.”

Why I like it 

Beauty, lifestyle, meditation, business, I look forward to Emma’s podcast every sunday. I really appreciate how personal it is, and at the same time how empathic she is with her guests. Also the show still feels artisanal in the best way. It’s very real. She’s a great interviewer, and the subjects are just exactly the type of content that goes along a perfect sunday at tea-time kind of mood.

Oh Boy

What they say about it

“In this first podcast from Man Repeller, Filmmaker Jay Buim sits down with women in the arts, tech and beyond for one on one conversations about their life and work.”

Why I like it 

I haven’t listened to all of them, and it’s actually ended now. But Jay Buim’s conversations are very inspiring. His voice is really soft and I enjoy how he brings his guests to question almost everything. Emily Weiss’s interview is captivating for example. Start with that I’d say, you might find yourself coming back to it.

Voilà !

I also enjoy a few more podcasts, but more on that in an other article ! Do you also listen to podcasts ? Leave your recommandations in the comments, I’d love to discover new ones ! Happy sunday !