Turning 30

Yesterday I turned 30. Not that I’m having an existential crisis (I totally am), but the past few months I definitely have been thinking more and more about what I’ve accomplished, what I want to achieve, where’s my life at basically. Here are a few things (not 30 things because I haven’t learned THAT much) I’ve learned over the years!

I’m so grateful for the friends I have and I am so glad to have decided to be picky with my relationships.

Dropping stuff on the floor and staining my clothes on a daily basis will forever be a part of my life.

Growing up is tough and not what I expected but I would not in a million years go back to my 20’s.

I don’t think I’ll ever find a balance regarding my coffee addiction.

I’m finally reaching a time where it’s acceptable to just leave a party, because “it’s been great but won’t get better, so I might as well just go home and start nursing the hangover I’ll have for the next four days thanks“.

I wish I did not know Instagram and I am so deeply grateful not to have had it when I was a teenager. SO grateful.

It’s ok to be angry.

I should have never touched my eyebrows.

Living in London for one year was one of the best decision of my life.

I’d rather eat than cook and it’s fine.

Magic is not necessarily outside your comfort zone.

I am an introvert.

Trying to be fair and empathic is equally as challenging as it is motivating.

Being kind to yourself sometimes does not mean you won’t grow, evolve or be a better human. On the contrary.

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Sisterhood is something I wish I’d been welcoming sooner but I am so happy to have found.

Double cleansing is life-changing.

Makeup is fun and loving it does not make you a shallow person. Quite the opposite.

Nuance is key.

I am not the best version of myself, I don’t know if I ever will. What I do know is that I try.

Green tea is disgusting.

Time does go by faster when you get older. Sorry.

It is truly a huge asset to enjoy your own company.

It’s actually fun to see your hair turn white. I’m kidding. I hope it’ll be but for now it’s “interesting”.

Sometimes it feels like there’s no solution, that there will never be a better option, but it actually does work out ok in the end.

Growing up is all about readjusting. It’s also allowing yourself to be vulnerable and to face your mistakes. Super scary and rewarding.

It’s ok to see a group of people in their 20’s on the street, smile and feel like you’re the same age. You’re not but it’s ok.

I don’t feel 30. Does anyone feel their age?

Hopefully, aging means being more comfortable in your own skin, knowing what you want and need a bit more, enjoying little things, welcoming the love and getting wiser.

Hopefully it’s also not that big of a deal. Right?

xxx

Elsa, 30, not making a big deal out of it.

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Monday Highlight: On Friendships

Even though I adore my friends and cherish the relationships I have in my life, I find it really hard, as a soon to be 30 years old, to not compare my friendship group to Friends, Will & Grace, Seinfeld, How I Met Your Mother, Girls etc. Actually Girls is very nuanced and is probably the closest to how complicated actual friendships can be. I still don’t really relate but it’s not as painful as thinking “Why am I not at least a few times week in a coffeeshop with my dearest friends having a chat about life?” Which by the way, is something I definitely did in my 20’s. Nowadays, it’s just not possible. With work, partners, kids sometimes, every day life chores, how would I be able to spend so much time with my friends? What is friendship anyway? Does it have to be super intense, frequent, enlightening every time and forever ever?

I have started to wonder about why my friendships look almost nothing like the representations of friendships I’ve seen or read about. And i’ts fine.

I don’t run into my friends in my neighborhood, I used to but a lot of them have moved.

A few of my best friends don’t live in my town, and some of them don’t even live in my country. Is this a generational issue?

I don’t go to brunch every Sunday with my girlfriends¬† because it’d be a nightmare to organize, our weekends being quite busy.

None of my friends have a key to my flat. I wouldn’t like that anyway actually.

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I do have amazing, funny, inspiring friends and I am so thankful because all these relationships mean the world to me. Yet I have started to wonder about why these friendships look almost nothing like the representations of friendships I’ve seen or read about. And i’s fine. The brilliant Haley Nahman wrote a very touching and smart piece on Man Repeller¬†called “Does Everyone Have a Friendship Complex, or Just Me?”

Questioning what friendship is, what it looks like and how to look at it differently. From what friends mean to us when we’re little, to trying to make friends in NYC and the fear of friendlessness, Haley Nahman offers a very interesting, vulnerable, heartwarming reflection on a topic that’s definitely been on my mind lately. If you have to read one thing this week, make it this!

Oh by the way, every Monday, I will share with you an article, a book, a series, a film, a podcast’s episode, a style discovery, anything that has inspired me, hoping it’ll inspire you in return!

Monday Groove On!